Hiding behind a religiously phrased “I’m Not Perfect” is another way to shut down communication and avoid accountability for your own behavior. Using this tactic teaches children in a God that can not be trusted.

Using the phrase "God wants me to" as a justification for personal actions or decisions, can sometimes be a way for individuals to manipulate situations or avoid accountability.

I believe forgiveness is an invitation from a God who cares about us and wants us to focus on our live journey without being held back by the difficulties we’ve endured. Forgiveness is my tool for healing, not someone’s weapon to use against us.

We all crave being loved and we are taught what love is by our family. Unfortunately, human failing can corrupt what love looks like to a child and it’s up to us, as adults, to figure out what love really is. If you were raised in a religious home then an incorrect belief about love also clouds your view of what God’s love is.

I grew up thinking I could not judge others.  I was willing to take the blame because I thought that was what God expected of me.  I spent years working on myself and saying everyone else can do what they want.  I found out the hard way that you can’t draw healthy boundaries if you don’t make good judgements.